This session will propose a flowchart based on one vital question: Is this youth’s behavioral challenges more a matter of will or a matter of skill. Counselors, parents, and teachers often assume the behavior is willful and subsequently rely on behavior modification strategies. Often, the challenges are more a matter of skill and we will share strategies from dialectical behavior therapy, collaborative problem-solving, and other evidence-based programs that focus on helping youth learn and develop key life skills such as emotional regulation, distress tolerance, and problem-solving.